Positive can happen!

by The Group Hug February 25, 2019, 3:51 pm 1.9k Views

I’m going to post something positive…I hope it might give some of you hope, or open some eyes…most of you will think I’m crazy…but here it goes.

My divorce was pretty traumatic. After 12 years of marriage, I left my husband. Within a week it went from bad to the ultimate worst, and over night I packed a duffle bag, my camera, computer and a 2 and 4 year old up and moved to my parents house 2000 miles away. I had nothing. No job, no daycare, no house, no money. I literally had nothing. In truly had to start over again. I can’t get into the details of what happened, but let’s just say you could make a movie over it.

I jumped into a relationship right away. Thought I was being saved. It was great at first, but through the years I saw how much he controlled and manipulated me. He took me away from everyone and everything…… I cannot express enough the isolation.

He was in charge of how my ex and I communicated. I hated it, but allowed it to happen. My ex moved back to where I live, for the kids and it was a nightmare between not only my boyfriend at the time, but my ex and I.

My ex started dating and found a girl. I was happy for him…. but because I was being controlled, and it made it look like I was being nasty, she didn’t like me. Add to the nightmare.

Long story short, I am single again. Free to make my own decisions. I have mended the friendship I have with my ex husband. He is now married, and I am extremely close with his wife. We have family dinners together. Her kids spend the night at my house. Her ex husband actually took my kids to a football game…(weird to most, but awesome for us).

What I’m trying to say is, I know this works for about 1% of divorced couples…but it can work if you’re both willing to let it happen.

I’ve been through the darkest days of divorce. Out of respect, I won’t say too much. But give it time. A lot of time if need be. Be there for the kids… it is possible.

Written by a First Wives UK Blogger in the USA

Some names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.