Welcome to The Hug Community
Where we matter.
Please always bear in mind our community guidelines before participating in any discussion.
Anyone only dating out of boredom?
God I am so bored. I feel quite bad about this but then I haven't had a great experience with "real and true" dating anyway. So I have enrolled in a couple of dating apps just out of sheer boredom and I am a kind of dating a guy but I know it's not serious on my part at least. I am still on dating apps and just joined Muddy Matches too. I spend my whole evening just chatting to guys and it's relentless crap. Anyone else doing this? Is it this lockdown situation?
Oh my goodness, yes! I hate to admit it. It seems to be helping lower my anxiety after my husband left too. The last thing I really want is another guy to deal with but there is a feeling of abandonment /rejection/fear of the unknown and dating seems to help assuage this.
@dutchy I totally agree! When my husband left me I felt so lonely/abandoned/deserted. I think my self esteem went to rock bottom and I loved dating as it made me feel so much better! I used it as a confidence boost and found it quite fun. I really get the out of boredom thing too as I think it just became something to do! It was so easy just to sit at home in the evenings browsing online apps like some sort of hobby! millennial dating is a whole new world isn’t it. I had been with my husband since I was 19 so it was really eye opening to me!
You are so right. It does turn into a hobby, like knitting. Ha ha... gosh his awful. Swiping through all those men, deciding if you like the look of them or not. I don’t think the guys seem to worry about their photos either, they don’t get the whole ‘camera angle’ thing do they?? Awww bless. What’s with holding a fish up too? I mean, do they really think we will be impressed by the size of their fish?? Great conversation. Hope others join in. Could be funny.. makes me smile. 😂😂😂
Haha - I’m yet to dip my toe into the dating scene but sounds like some of you are having fun with it which gives me hope!
I have only been separated for 5 months after a 22 year marriage of which the ending came as a complete shock. The stories I have heard about dating sites scare me I don’t have the confidence to go on there plus I am nowhere near ready. I accepted from day one as a woman in my early 50’s that I may be alone for ever but my husband probably has moved on or will do very quickly, good looking and a high flyer there was probably a queue forming the minute his wedding ring was off he wouldn’t even have to look at a dating website.